But… What About Me?

best for me

What is the cost to you to say (and mean) these words?   How much guilt, or trepidation, or shame, or discomfort is associated with these words for you?

What IS best for you?  Do you know?  Oftentimes we are so far from our authentic selves that we don’t even know what we want – or what is best!

That was most certainly my experience!  I didn’t even have a thought to call my own!  I looked outside myself for every sort of validation.  I did not believe the answers were already inside me…

But, as I began to take the tiniest babysteps, I began to hear that voice within, and not just hear it, but I began to allow myself to believe it held the answers I needed.  That’s when change began to happen…

Here are a few ideas to help.  Make (and decide to keep) one small promise to yourself.  It has to be small – small is the only way to begin to uncover your true self.  That true self has been hiding from you, because you do not believe she exists or you have been giving your power away to others for years, so you really don’t believe you have any power to call your own!  So, in order to help her trust you again, you need to start small.

What’s one tiny promise you can make?  Perhaps..today I intend to write in my journal for 5 minutes.  Or, today I intend to stop for half an hour to do something I want to do.  Or, today I intend to take a 10 minute walk. Or, today I intend to get to bed on time.

Make that one tiny promise and keep it.  Tomorrow, make another (or the same one!)  The important part of this exercise is that you place enough value on yourself to keep One Tiny Promise to yourself each day.  Make it an intention.  This is how that true part of yourself will begin to believe you mean it – you want to find her.

And,  no beating up on yourself allowed!  If you don’t keep that promise today, make it again tomorrow. You WILL get there.  Babysteps are a very powerful catalyst for change.