Self Care – It’s Not What You Think –

Hello, and welcome to my new blog! My name is Chere, and this is my second blog on WordPress.  You can visit my first one here.

My first blog was meant to be all about my journey into self care – but it ended up being more of a personal sharing of my life, which is good and ok.  My intention here, though, is to share about all things self care related.  And those things aren’t necessarily what you might imagine off the top of your head.

Why self care?  And, why me?  Well, I admit I’m no expert, and that I am a self taught advocate of the need for self care in all of its forms.  My personal journey has led me to realize that in order for me to live my life in a healthy, balanced way, I need to implement self care, not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually and mentally.  My past experiences and trainings did not include being taught much about self care beyond taking a shower and keeping your teeth brushed!   Self care is SO much more than that.  It’s about boundaries.  It’s about being able to say NO.  It’s about healthy eating, and moving one’s body on a regular basis.  It’s about positive, intentional self-talk, not the self talk that many of us allow ourselves to partake in.

My life was the OPPOSITE of self care – it was self – loathing!  That inner critic broke me down over and over again.  I had NO boundaries – in fact (and don’t laugh!)  I didn’t know what a personal boundary even was till I was in my 40’s.  I didn’t believe I was worthy of anything good, so whenever I especially needed to practice self care, I would do the exact opposite – practice self-neglect.

My life was a mess, and I fell apart in so many ways you cannot even count.  And getting back on my feet was painful, and painfully slow.  I have had to teach myself about the importance of loving me, accepting me right where I am, and being happy with myself.

Learning these things has not been easy.  But what I’ve found even more disturbing is that I’m not alone in this way I have treated myself for too many years!  So many out there (particularly women, but also men) are still believing that they are of no worth….and I find that unacceptable.  So, if, by sharing my story, and offering some solutions, ideas, encouragement or kindness, I can give back to even a few, then, that painful journey I made toward self-love will have all been worth it.

Because, when you go through a dark-night-of-the-soul, and come out the other side, it has to have meant something in the bigger picture called life.  At least, to me.

stay tuned…


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